The truth about dawn.

I seem tolerant, patient, calm, unaffected. But I'm not like that all the time, everywhere, with anyone. Realised that I need to be more encouraging and gracious towards other people. When someone does something wrong, what do I do? I suppose I nag, find faults instead of encouraging the person to do the right thing. Why is it so difficult to encourage someone to do the right thing??? I suppose it's because I am already annoyed with them and by determining what's right and wrong I guess I've already made some judgement upon them. I mean, yes, somethings are obviously wrong, but why did they do it?? What can I do to help them?? Obviously, the most helpful thing is to make them realise what they are doing is not beneficial to them. How, how, how??? I shouldn't be so swift in judging people.
I'm not very gracious because I nag too much, tend to harbour grudges sometimes too. I guess it's because I am just human and I need time, experiences and God's word to renew, refresh my parched attitudes.